I was sad to see them go back then, so that made this reunion all the better. And Rowan was excited to see her "Uncle J and Auntie Caroline" too.
|Rowan with her uncle Justin|
last December in Key West
Although she showed great excitement at first, she has been ill at ease ever since. It got worse as today wore on, almost to the point that she was being a bit irrational, and I'm ashamed to admit, almost a bit annoying to me. Finally, when I put her to bed, she was shaking and told me she as scared. She often does that when what she means is "I don't want to..." Such as, I don't want to go to sleep. But this did feel a little different.
"Rowan, what are you scared of?"
In a very small voice, "I don't know."
"Are you afraid something is going to happen to you?"
She shook her head.
I paused, and something occurred to me. So I asked quietly, "Are you afraid something is going to happen to me?"
Without a second's hesitation, she nodded.
And there you have it. Rowan remembers that the last time this group of people was together, she lost her mommy. Now she's afraid she will lose her daddy too. And you know what? I get it. I totally do. To a four year old, that cause-and-effect theory makes perfect sense.
We'll be here for a couple more days. I sincerely hope that over that time, we'll build up enough new memories with Aimee's family, especially with Justin and Caroline, that Rowan will feel more at ease when we're all together. As her mommy's family, they are her family too, and always will be, no matter what. I want her to be close to them, and through them get other stories and memories to keep her mommy alive to her.
And in the meantime, I'll pray to God that He keeps me safe, if for no other reason than for Rowan's sake.