Tuesday, December 3, 2013

The Big Announcement

With the continuation of legal proceedings in Florida over the last couple of years, I have stayed pretty quiet about my relationship with the woman I have referred to as 'Sandra' on this blog. Her name is actually Sarah, and now that the legal crap is pretty much out of the way, I plan to be a lot more open about our relationship.

The significance of this is that while she and I have undergone a number of struggles and experiences that are directly related to my dealing with Aimee's death, I haven't felt free to talk about that here. It's one of the main reasons I haven't posted much this year - most of what I've gone through has been in the intersection between Aimee's death and my relationship with Sarah. So in the coming weeks, I plan to share some of those things here, in hopes that people who've gone through similar situations might learn from my mistakes experiences.

By next summer the last name on
the jersey will be her last name too!
But for now, I am just going to share this one small, insignificant bit of news:

We're getting married!

Yes, Sarah and I became engaged about a month and a half ago (a little more than a year after we started dating), and are already full steam into planning our wedding, which will happen next summer. 

This development has brought on a whole new set of things we're dealing with, which will also be the topic of some future blog post.

I feel I would be remiss if I did not mention that although Sarah is walking into a very complicated situation, she's handled it with an incredible amount of grace, patience, understanding, and humor. She's going from being a single woman with no children (or in-laws) to becoming a wife and mother with what amounts to TWO sets of in-laws. Because I'll tell all of you this: Aimee's family is still exactly that - family. Not just Aimee's, but mine and Rowan's as well. And soon, Sarah's. And as I saw on Thanksgiving, they are embracing her and she them.

So that's the big news, and all I have for now. More - much more - coming.


10 comments:

  1. Great news, Pat! Happy for you, Rowan and Sarah!

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  2. Congratulations. As you've probably notice on my own Grief community I've been very quiet and that is mainly because I'm in wonderful relationship and it is hard to write about grief, when you are mainly beyond it. There is still a sense of loss and sadness, but the heart wrenching grief is a thing of the past.

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    1. I know what you mean, but for me it's been a little more complicated than that. Being in a relationship has brought on new elements of the grieving process. I've had to deal with things I've never dealt with before, that through counseling I learned were part of the grief manifesting themselves in this new relationship.

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  3. Congratulations, Pat! I am so happy for you.

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  4. Congratulations, Pat, so very happy for you and Rowan!

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  5. Pat, I'm so thrilled for you and Rowan! Congratulations to all of you guys and the excitement of building your lives together!

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  6. I am so happy for you and Rowan. I suspected this would happen for you, and I am so glad the time has come. How nice that you can approach the difficult month of December with some joy again. There will always be sorrow for Aimee's absence, but you know more than anyone that Aimee would want you and Rowan to be happy and not spend your lives immersed in grief. Congratulations to Sarah for her engagement to you, and the honor of receiving Rowan as a daughter.

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    1. What a wonderful comment, thanks so much!

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