My name is Pat Rhoads. This blog is about my wife Aimee, lost in a tragic boating accident while scuba diving December 18, 2011. People mentioned here are our daughter, Aimee's mom Donna, her brother Justin and his wife Caroline. The beginning of this tragic story can be found here:
Tuesday, December 3, 2013
The Big Announcement
With the continuation of legal proceedings in Florida over the last couple of years, I have stayed pretty quiet about my relationship with the woman I have referred to as 'Sandra' on this blog. Her name is actually Sarah, and now that the legal crap is pretty much out of the way, I plan to be a lot more open about our relationship.
The significance of this is that while she and I have undergone a number of struggles and experiences that are directly related to my dealing with Aimee's death, I haven't felt free to talk about that here. It's one of the main reasons I haven't posted much this year - most of what I've gone through has been in the intersection between Aimee's death and my relationship with Sarah. So in the coming weeks, I plan to share some of those things here, in hopes that people who've gone through similar situations might learn from my mistakes experiences.
By next summer the last name on
the jersey will be her last name too!
But for now, I am just going to share this one small, insignificant bit of news:
We're getting married!
Yes, Sarah and I became engaged about a month and a half ago (a little more than a year after we started dating), and are already full steam into planning our wedding, which will happen next summer.
This development has brought on a whole new set of things we're dealing with, which will also be the topic of some future blog post.
I feel I would be remiss if I did not mention that although Sarah is walking into a very complicated situation, she's handled it with an incredible amount of grace, patience, understanding, and humor. She's going from being a single woman with no children (or in-laws) to becoming a wife and mother with what amounts to TWO sets of in-laws. Because I'll tell all of you this: Aimee's family is still exactly that - family. Not just Aimee's, but mine and Rowan's as well. And soon, Sarah's. And as I saw on Thanksgiving, they are embracing her and she them.
So that's the big news, and all I have for now. More - much more - coming.