tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-271970024270432796.post2874062533243161148..comments2023-10-10T02:23:52.624-07:00Comments on Missing Aimee: The Gauntlet, or, a Month of HellUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-271970024270432796.post-6001972931894673242012-04-04T21:44:41.932-07:002012-04-04T21:44:41.932-07:00I'll be praying for you as you endure the next...I'll be praying for you as you endure the next weeks. Sometimes the best thing to do in the first year is get yourself out of town on those certain dates, somewhere you've never been, doing something you'd never do. Never been to the desert, New York, or Leavenworth? Go there for a couple days. Don't go where you have memories. You can still mark the date with a ritual and remembrance, but you'll be distracted with new sights, sounds, and experiences to get you past the day. After my cousin's 9 year old daughter died, they broke with all holiday traditions, even leaving the country to avoid that first Christmas with all the relatives. Being home on those special days was just too painful. Give yourself permission to get away.kandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14495027770652792726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-271970024270432796.post-77545382298301951822012-03-30T10:45:50.534-07:002012-03-30T10:45:50.534-07:00Pat - this first year of "firsts" withou...Pat - this first year of "firsts" without Aimee will be unspeakable torture... hold on tight, and try to allow yourself to 'feel' every emotion - and rely on others to help you through (they really do want to help you, albeit in their limited capacity). Starting on 12/19/12, there will be no more "firsts"... you will still remember and 'feel', but the sting will lessen and the memories will be softer and warmer - and yet still bittersweet. It is hard to see now while it still grips you so tightly, but you will never want to loose any of those memories. Your courage here speaks directly to my spirit and heart, and though it may sound somewhat strange, I sincerely appreciate you sharing your deeply personal pain here with us. You're never far from my thoughts and prayers.<br /><br />This is a new, beautiful song by Matt Redman - it may speak to your heart; http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DXDGE_lRI0E&feature=relatedZeldahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11021514651715917476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-271970024270432796.post-40922997238318709272012-03-29T10:30:44.911-07:002012-03-29T10:30:44.911-07:00Thanks Carol. I know there isn't anything that...Thanks Carol. I know there isn't anything that anyone can do. This will just take time, period.Pat Rhoadshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00608587744141243108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-271970024270432796.post-67458296838703789762012-03-29T06:04:24.507-07:002012-03-29T06:04:24.507-07:00I read your posts religiously, thinking about your...I read your posts religiously, thinking about your family and praying as well for you all and for Aimee. I wish I could take away the pains.<br />I pray that some sense can come out of this tragedy.<br />Carol WalkerCarolWalkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12932856492218408850noreply@blogger.com